The Hole in One of Fatherhood

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Golf superstar Tiger Woods once said that a person’s perspective in life can totally change when you enter fatherhood and start having kids. This life changing experience can become one of the most important things in your life. buy Kamagra online Taking care of this experience is a significant way to make sure that you raise your children to be the best that they can and to excel on their chosen fields the time they grow up. Kamagra 100 mg pills He even related fatherhood to his golf course experiences by giving a real life example. When you have kids you can look forward to going home at the end of the day no matter how bad your day on the course turned out because of hitting a bad shot you can look up to them to cuddle you and ease your tiredness. After the day ends you could come to realize that having kids wasn’t that bad after all. Woods even said that he won’t exchange the glory of fatherhood with any precious trophies and golf titles in the world.

Having kids and being given the responsibility sustaining them is like buying your own cart parts and accessories. If you are a die-hard fan of the sport of golf then buying the perfect accessory becomes a big deal for you because you would not just purchase something without trying to understand and learn the proper way of handling it for you and your golf cart accessory to have a long-time bond and share experiences that can be treasured for life.

Same goes with entering the responsibility of fatherhood. The time you are blessed with a child the responsibility of protecting and giving all the needs of the child to grow. On the process of giving you don’t only give financial assistance, but more of an emotional investment. Same with your desire to bond with your golf cart accessories for a long time. While watching your child grow investments of emotions is being given as you long to be with your child even if you hair turns gray. No parents especially daddies would want to lose their child by any means. Every dad ensures their child’s safety thus protecting them from any harm, in comparison for buying the perfect golf car parts. Owners are very discreet with the issue of safeties to avoid unexpected accidents that may result to anyone getting hurt.

When men reached the age of Fatherhood hesitations of playing golf comes as an issue especially if you are in the point of your life where you are expected to fulfil your duty as the father for your child. This dilemma should never happen because proper balance of your time or time management as the professionals would call it can be an answer to that. But of course you should not treasure your cart accessories more than your children because playing golf should be just a past time not your life. Learning to prioritize your family first is a must before indulging yourself to golf related matters. Provide first the need of your children and spoil them before thinking of overhauling your golf cart and buying the newly released golf cart accessories. By this way you can enjoy the best of both worlds with the joy of being a father and the feeling of fulfilment as you get the chance to do your golf courses.

20 . 12 . 2011
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Mental Health

My Grandfather, John Jones and the Pullman Sleeping Car Porters

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My Grandfather, John Jones was born in Gonzales, Texas in September of 1888. He grew up in this small town and attended the local grade school there. At the age of sixteen and after taking a young girl, Minnie Weathers for his wife, he moved to the then Cattle Empire of Fort Worth, Texas.

For over forty years my grandfather’s job was that of being a member of a dapper group of distinguished black gentlemen know as the Pullman Sleeping Car Porters or simply the Pullman Porters. They were named after George Pullman of the Pullman Palace Train Car Company, the inventor of the Pullman Sleeping Car which was designed for luxurious long distance train travel.

As a Pullman Porter, my grandfather traveled from his home in Fort Worth on many different train routes across the United States for the Texas and Pacific Railroad during the heyday of train travel from 1922 until 1962 when he retired.

When I, his grandson born in Fort Worth, moved to Kansas City, Missouri in 1977, he recounted to me many stories about his train travel to Kansas City. He told of arriving at the nation’s second largest train station, Union Station downtown (Grand Central Station in New York, being the first) and seeing all of the advertising signboards on a hill across from the station (where now sits the Westin Crown Center Hotel) and then staying overnight at the Streets Hotel for Blacks located in what is now known as the 18th & Vine Historic Jazz District (a National District of Historic Places in the US).

My Grandparents were happily married for 65 years. They raised seven children all of them college educated from the salary he received and the tips he earned from the many traveling passengers he served. My Grandmother passed away in 1978 while my Grandfather lived to be 99 years old and died on Thursday, June 9, 1988 only a few months before turning 100 years old.

The Pullman Porters and their Rich American History: George Pullman of the Pullman Palace Train Car Company established in 1862, made train cars and developed the Pullman luxury sleeping car which was used on trains for long and overnight travel. These train cars, first introduced to the railroad in 1867 had carpet, draperies, upholstered chairs, libraries and card tables in addition to private sleeping rooms with beds and bathrooms for long train travel.

Mr. Pullman had the idea to hire a group of very distinguished, good looking, well dressed African American men to serve as Pullman Porters to assist the train travelers with whatever needs they might have while onboard. This proved to be great work for the Porters and was considered a very prestigious job on what Mr. Pullman called a “Hotel on Wheels”.

During the 1920′s, Mr. Pullman had over 9,800 Pullman Train Cars and he employed over 12,000 African American Porters. He was the largest single employer of Blacks in the country at that time.

The daily work for a Pullman Porter was long and hard but offered good pay during the time and also offered the porters a chance to see the country. During the early years they would work 400 hours per month and receive 35 cents per hour or about $810.00 per year plus the tips they would make. This was good money and enabled them to take good care of their families and to send their kids to college. Their prestigious jobs also helped to define the Black Middle Class of that time.

The Pullman Porters were basically servants and had to endure all types of demeaning behavior from white travelers. There were a lot of times when they were not called by their names but rather referred to as “George” after George Pullman or simply “boy” which they all hated.

Their daily work included shinning shoes, making beds, providing room service, helping with luggage or just about anything the traveling passenger would want or need. The better the service the better the tips, they would hopefully receive. Sometimes a quarter and sometimes even a rare dollar if they provided very good service. In addition, the Pullman Company work policy was harsh and allowed the porters to sleep only four hours each night and they had to pay for their uniforms, logging and food.

On August 25, 1925 the Brotherhood of Sleeping Car Porters was founded by a black businessman, A. Philip Randolph. It was the country’s first all-black labor union and helped pave the way for better employment benefits for the porters.

On August 25, 1937 the Pullman Company signed a work agreement with the Pullman Porters which became the first ever labor agreement between black workers and a major american company. The result of the agreement included such benefits as reducing their work hours from 400 a month to 250 and raising their salary from $67.50 per month to a minimum of $89.50 per month.

The Pullman Porters were very well respected members of their communities and were credited with contributing to the development of the Black Middle Class in America much like Black Doctors, Lawyers and Educators of the time.

In 1968, the Pullman Company ended its operation of their sleeping cars and several railroad companies took over the Pullman Car function.The Porters were transferred to such companies as the Union Pacific Railroad and later Amtrak.

In conclusion, if you ever have a chance to ride the Amtrak train today and you notice a nice Black Man taking care of your every need, tip him well and remember the proud history of the Brotherhood of Sleeping Car Porters and in particular, remember my grandfather, Pullman Porter John Jones not “George” or “Boy”.

22 . 11 . 2011
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Singles

Rod Stewart Used to Be Rod The Mod

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Rod Stewart and I were both born a few miles apart in post war North London. Through the early to mid 1960′s in the UK there had been lots of young people driving motor scooters (Mods). Many of them dressed sharply and embraced the new music trends that included blues artists from the USA, The Beatles, The Rolling Stones and many other new groups.

During this transitionary time a lot of the emerging artists and groups played in church or pub halls and other small venues. My friends and I regularly went to gigs around London where these new artists, some of whom would become famous male singers or pop groups, were performing. At the time these mainly unheard of but ground breaking artists included: John Lee Hooker, Howlin’ Wolf, Georgie Fame, The Rolling Stones, The Pretty Things, John Mayall, The Who, The Animals and Long John Baldry.

John Baldry was an English and Canadian blues singer who had a significant and steady following – and I was one of those people. His nickname was well deserved because John was 6ft 7in or 2.01 metres tall. He had a style and design of his own and if he was appearing locally, he was a hot ticket.

John Baldry perhaps never had the wider recognition he deserved but his talent was acknowledged by emerging superstars at the time including Elton John, Mick Jagger, Charlie Watts and Rod (The Mod) Stewart who all supported him from time to time. Rod was alleged to have been discovered after John Baldry heard him busking at an underground (metro) station.

My early memories of Rod Stewart came from the time he performed at the John Baldry gigs where Rod was very much a supporting artist.

This tall (assisted by platform shoes) thin, long blonde-haired husky voiced male singer who often wore a trademark long scarf frequently performed before John Baldry who was the main act but Rod later joined him for duets. During the 1960s the UK music scene was a hotbed for development. It seemed that a new talented group with a different offering was hitting the headlines every week – if not every day.

In 1967 The Jeff Beck Group hit the scene with talented artists including Jeff Beck on lead guitar and Ronnie Wood on rhythm guitar. Jet Harris (ex Shadows) also played bass guitar for a while. The vocalist was Rod Stewart who was attracting increasing interest. The format of the group was dynamic and at one time Keith Moon, John Paul Jones and Jimmy Page also joined the line up. During 1967 the band released 3 UK and 2 US singles and perhaps the best and greatest success was Hi Ho Silver Lining.

From these early beginnings Rod Stewart has continued to expand his career and is now one of the most famous male singers and artists in the world. Rod started his two year residency in Caesars Palace in 2011 and you may not be able to travel and see his show but it you want the best prices for concert tickets, or any other form of music event anywhere in the world visit the Gig Ticket Shop at http://www.gigticketshop.com.

There’ll be more articles on Rod and other top rated artists who had their roots in the 1960s or 1970s so look out for future articles.

22 . 11 . 2011
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Reconnecting

Vineyards Along The Mosel [A Simple And Delightful Short Story: 1976]

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He turned his dark green, four doors 1970-VW close to the side of the road, slowing down to an easy ten-miles per hour, looking for a place to park. He found it; vineyards were below him, the Mosel River below that, a castle to the far right of him on a hilltop.

The valley was beautiful he thought; the early sun and breeze of December (1976) crept around him as he stood outside of his car, looking down upon the private lands; he didn’t trespass, just a serious look over the landscape, his twin boys in the car with their mother, Cody found his way out, and stood by him, his father, judging the stretched out vineyards, he was all of four years old, closer to five. It was a pleasant morning for them, not much green, a cloudy soupy sky, a misty river from where they stood, but the sky was clearing slowly, as they walked along the rim of the highway, it had a sparse, thin barbwire fence, with skinny wooden poles to keep out the public, the exercise kept them both warm; he talked somewhat (the father, more of a mumble), Cody, didn’t say a word, perhaps not needing no answer to what was being said, a few ‘yaws’ from them both as they walked.

They seemed more to pace than walk, walking through and on the patchy brown ground–weeds draw out across the fence; a few rocks being kicked about, both of them feeling simple and alive, free and antiquate. It was a day before Christmas.

Now as Cody’s father looked upward he noticed the sky was filling up with the sun, and now they both could feel its heat; the countryside looked so protective he thought. Only ten-minutes had passed, ten-minutes before they booth started walking back to the car; he could hear noises inside the car, it was facing them. He still couldn’t see the full river, nor the castle completely, the atmosphere was too dense with moisture; a few cars rode by, like hoof beats. It was a good moment, that is, sharing this solitude together, Cody and his father. He started the car headed on down the hill to the Mosel, it was a ting trying now, and he felt a little detached from reality.

As he drove closer to the border of the road, the magic of the previous moment had disappeared, day had fully come, and large geese were pacing the bank of the River, Cody took a long glimpse from the back seat, and once from the confidents of the car, ran down the cement stairs to the rivers edge to touch (perhaps play with the geese that were as tall as him), and it struck out like a snake with its long neck and beak at Cody, and Cody jumped back alarmed–a food perhaps, only to stare at this long neck creature, and look at his father for reassurance, to see if it was favorable to proceed.

In that moment his father saw his slender body, yet strong bones move cautiously, his blond thin hair, his blue eyes, his face was hard, but eyes soft, from good stock I suppose, so he thought. His whole being very sculptured, his grace was erect and flexible. His head held up firmly, he took his breaths slowly, he had looked deep into his father’s face, look for the go ahead to challenge the beast, and the father gave nothing back but adventure, and life would prove correct (he loved nature and animals).

Written at the restaurant, El Parquetito’s, Lima Peru, 9/18/2006, revised 210/19/2006. Location: West Germany, Mosel Valley, River, winter of 1976; dedicated to Cody Siluk Sr.

22 . 11 . 2011
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Post Divorce

A Little Extra Padding And Online Dating

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Forty million single people log on to online dating sites each and every month.

Chances are some of those people are jerks or lie about their appearance. We have all heard stories of gross misrepresentation. What the hell does a little extra padding mean anyway?

I went for coffee one time with a woman I met online. She described herself as beautiful and blonde with a “little extra padding” as a result of having a child.

Beauty is very subjective but the fact she thought of herself as beautiful was fine by me. After all, a person has to be very ugly for a coffee to become unbearable.

Blonde was OK by me as well, except she forgot to mention she bought it. Actually she wasn’t really blonde but more of a light shade of mud. A little extra padding is where it all came off the rails.

Had I gone to a movie with this lady, she would have struggled to squat her behind in the chair. Quite honestly this lady had more than a little extra padding. She was obese times three.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying I’m perfect or in great shape. I am 5′ 9″ and I weigh one hundred and eighty pounds. According to BMI calculations, I am on the high side of “normal weight” or the low side of “obese.”

This lady was grossly overweight – not that there’s anything wrong with that. But the fact she lied about it, is what I found so offensive.

One of the sexiest women I have ever met was overweight. She could easily stand to loose thirty or forty pounds but she oozed sexuality. She was all class, well put together and the total package.

I have nothing against overweight people but I was expecting one thing and got something completely different. Because I felt as though she lied to me, I didn’t see blonde colored hair I saw mud color instead. I didn’t see beautiful, I saw ugly.

She seemed like a nice person but I felt she really pulled a fast one on me.

All of this could have been avoided if she had posted her picture. More importantly, I should have insisted on seeing her picture. I learned a very valuable lesson while having coffee that day. I now refuse to meet any woman unless I see her picture first. I’m not saying I’m all that but I think showing someone else your picture is a good start.

Across all online dating websites, it has been consistently shown that men and women who post their picture in their profile are far more likely to have contact from other members.

By seeing a picture first, you certainly can avoid disappointment later on.

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Marriage

How to Date From a Distance

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We’ve all heard it before; long distance relationships just don’t work out. Well that is not the case, nowadays. The ability to communicate with those around the world has gotten simpler, less expensive and more advanced. I am currently in a relationship with a man who lives 1200 miles away from me! How do we keep our connection alive a thousand miles away? There are six tools I recommend to stay close from a distance, but first, let’s talk a little about why some of this technology is so popular starting with online dating.

Online dating: Almost half of Americans that are looking for love turn to the World Wide Web. Why not? It opens your dating pool to a wider array of prospects that you can match to your specific preferences. I didn’t meet my boyfriend online; however it has led to dates, some of which turned into relationships.

Web cams: Visual cues such as facial expressions are important in long distance relationships as well. Web cams enable you to see that your partner is engaged and enjoying your conversations. At first, I wasn’t comfortable using a webcam, but at this stage in my relationship, the web cam is a great way to see my boyfriend between visits. Web cameras do not have to be expensive. Check vendors like eBay and Craigslist for bargains.

Skype: Skype works with your computer’s camera to allow you to video conference with your love interest. Another option is to leave out the camera and just communicate using your computer’s microphone like a telephone. With Skype, you won’t rack up a lot of long distance phone charges. My boyfriend and I utilize the camera feature. It enhances our Bible studies, TV watching, web surfing and playing online games together.

Text and picture messaging: Texting and picture messaging are a quick convenient way to keep in touch. Let’s face it. We have work and other responsibilities throughout the day and there is not always the time or the place to talk on the phone or over the computer so texting is a great alternative.

Instant messaging: When you can’t talk, but have Internet access, instant messaging is a good way to communicate with your partner. AOL, Google, MSN and Yahoo are some of the most popular instant messaging services. These are all free and reliable. Instant messaging is a way to send text based messages, pictures and text based files to your partner over the computer in real time.

Email: My boyfriend and I email each other virtual greeting cards, which you can get for free at http://www.123greetings.com/, on special occasions or just to say “I’m thinking about you.” You can also be romantic by randomly sending poems, photos or videos.

Voicemail: Like email, you can use voicemail to deliver romantic messages such as “I just called to say I love you.” Voicemail is also a good tool to use to remind your lover about important information, for example your flight plans or to get specifics about your upcoming date.

We’ve explored through this article, many ways to maintain a relationship when living hundreds or even thousands of miles away from your love interest. So the next time someone says, “Long distance relationships don’t work,” tell them to read this article.

22 . 11 . 2011
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Friendship

History of Ancient Egyptian Glass

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This article briefly goes over the history of Egyptian glass. They were one of the first recorded in history to make glass for utilitarian and aesthetic purposes.

Lucky for us, many Egyptian glass works are preserved well, because of their culture of burying the worldly goods of the dead and the dry climate that prevents decay.

Egyptians were very ahead of the game regarding glass making; they knew before 3000 BC how to use glaze techniques. In the early periods, they created glass pieces modeled after stone or ceramic objects. They also created glass beads, which were highly prized, almost as much as gold and precious stones. Egyptians were also active in the trade of glass objects so that they could spread their techniques and style.

Glass vessels in the round, hollow form that we know appear only after 1500 BC, and it is thought that the conquest of Near Eastern lands triggered the sudden appearance of glass vessels in Egypt.

One common method of glassmaking used by Egyptians was “Cire perdue.” The piece was modeled in wax, and then covered with clay. Then the wax would be melted and poured away, so that the gap could be re-filled with molten glass.

Another, most common method was molting glass on a core. A core (made of clay, mud, or straw) in the shape of the desired piece was formed on a metal rod. Then, the core was dipped into molten glass. When the walls of the core with added glass became thick, the object was marvered and annealed. Lastly, the core was removed, leaving a rough interior.

Sky blue and dark blue were some popular colors for glass in Egypt, together with grey, yellow, white, and orange. In later periods, red, green, and violet also appeared and added more variety for the tastes of the wealthy.

Unfortunately, Egyptian glassmaking depended greatly on political circumstances as it frequently does in any other country; thus, between 1200BC and 900BC when the country was in decline, there is little development in glass production.

Later under Alexander the Great and the city of Alexandria, where many Egyptian craftsmen worked, the glass industry flourished again. Alexandria became a center of glassmaking, and Greek culture is also reflected in its style.

In 27 BC Egypt was eventually conquered by the Romans, but its glassmaking style remained for a time after that. Through Roman conquests and trade Egyptian (Alexandrian) glassware was exported throughout the empire.

22 . 11 . 2011
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Becoming Established on the Scene

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Let’s just get this out of the way: there’s no substitution for regular, dedicated practice. Yet, the days of “just” practicing are long gone. Given the rise of technology in our daily lives-there are now many great new ways to get better on your axe.

Hit the streets

We’re all great in the practice room-in fact, most beginning players are certified-rock stars in their own bedrooms. The truth is that it’s on stage where it really counts. If you have some kind of freakish skill or technique-but can’t incorporate it with others-it’s pretty much useless.

Remember this: the most important thing you can do is play with other people. “But who?” you ask… Actually: anyone. Everyone. Get online and “Google” the nearest open-mic night, and peruse any reviews to see if there’s a buzz, before wasting a trip.

It’s absolutely critical that you find a good open-mic and become a regular. Make it a weekly commitment: actually show up and introduce yourself to people, and get yourself known. When you start to feel that you have more friends in the room than strangers it will be easier to muster up the courage to play a song or two.

Or perhaps you are further along in your musical journey-or are just the courageous type-and playing live doesn’t faze you. Then by all means, sign up and get heard! Go out of your way to be friendly with the regulars: it’ll only be a matter of when (not if) before you meet a fellow musician that wants to play/jam with you outside of the club. In short: get out, meet and play with as many people as possible.

The best thing about playing out live is that you’ll quickly learn where your strengths (and weaknesses) are. That’s why it’s absolutely crucial to get out there with others, and see where you stand.

Another thing to remember is to always-always!-have a business card. Include your name, contact info and instrumentation (i.e., guitarist, singer, etc.). Also add your YouTube link (keep reading for more on creating your own YouTube page). Not only will other players take you more seriously when you approach them, but business cards help you sift through a lot of riff-raff, as well.

Get online

Be sure to get on YouTube subscribe to check out different teachers’ online free lessons. You’ll do well to find a teacher with a number of teaching videos out there so that there is a method to his madness-not just some randomly-connected insights that have no real flow. (This tends to be the biggest problem with beginners and intermediate players…they often know a little bit of this & that, but can’t seem to connect all the dots of information, to incorporate into a meaningful platform to build a style off of).

Remember that this is a common phenomenon: there is just so much information being pelted at beginning players these days. I tend to go with an instructor that has lots of videos out that are recorded and taught in a preset order: this shows a methodical, logical way to get you from your own “point A” to “point B.”

You: on YouTube

You can easily, quickly create your own YouTube page-for free! In almost no time you can upload a song that you can play or sing and a quick demo of your abilities. It’s important to create some kind of media site related way of letting people check you out before they commit time to hearing you on your instrument. And of course the same should apply to you: always ask a potential jam-partner to send you a recording or video before you commit to going to jam with them. Today, YouTube makes this infinitely easier than ever! Personally, I’d stay away from creating a new site on MySpace, as it’s rather outdated.

Get ruthless

Take time to check out some other musicians on Craigslist. (Of course, always use basic common sense and take precautions when meeting someone from an online connection). Check out the person, request some recordings, and of course, visit their YouTube link. If they don’t have any of these things, then ask to meet them at a local open-mic night (preferably your weekly spot). That way, you can each play a solo number and get to check each other out. This provides a good way to evaluate each other-without hurting anyone’s feelings.

It’s all about the experience

In short, get all the experience you can in playing out, networking, promoting jamming, writing, playing in bands, recording, sitting in, and so on. Seek out courses, guitar lessons and online videos as an affordable, often free, way to increase your knowledge base.

However, it’s the real in-person connections that will really drive your improvement. The truly-committed players do all of these things, and more: networking, hanging out at the music store and meeting people, responding to ads and flyers, posting things on Craigslist, going to shows, jams and open-mics, taking lessons and working with a committed partner/band toward booking shows are the best things you can do.

As my mentor used to say to me, “you don’t get the revelation without the situation.” All the revelation you can is out there online-and in-person. So now it’s time to get social and get into the right situation(s).

22 . 11 . 2011
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Dating

How To Practice Voice and Singing Techniques

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If you are like me, when I first started taking voice lessons I would go to my lesson, learn what the teacher told me in that lesson time, then I would go home. Often I would sing in the car, but I never really practiced. So how should you practice your vocal technique at home or on the go?

Get It Recorded

I personally give my students an audio CD of each and every lesson we do together. Why? Because I say a lot even in a 30 minute lesson. I do not expect you to remember it all. Plus, your lessons have the exercises that will help you become a better singer. If you take a 30 minutes lesson, that’s a great practice CD for you to use over the week.

If your teacher does not provide an audio recording, ask them if you can bring a recorder to your lessons to help you practice better during the week. If the coach says no, then I would seriously consider getting a new vocal coach.

Warm-Up

Most singers neglect the vocal warm-up but it is the most important aspect of practicing or performing. Warming up helps get the blood flowing in your vocal chords and can help you stretch and loosen the vocal chords for more demanding vocal practice. If your coach does not do a warm-up with every lesson, ask them if they can spend the first 5-10 minutes of your lesson going over proper warm up technique.

Practice The Hard Stuff

You will not better by practicing the things that already come easy to you. The best way to see what you are having difficulties with is to find a song, either and original or a cover, and really diagnose what issues you are having in that song. Are you tense? Are you falling flat? Is the verse great, but the chorus feels strained? Are you vowels stretched or distorting?

Pinpoint what things are causing you problems and diagnose them. Do not leave everything up to your vocal coach. Part of your lessons should be learning how to diagnose you own vocal problems and how to fix them. If you do not know how to do this, talk with your vocal coach and do not be afraid to ask why you are doing a particular exercise and why it will help you.

Ask Questions

By taking a look at what specifically troubles you, you can ask the right questions to get the right solution to your problem. If you do not know how to solve your problem, go to your next voice lesson with a list of questions. At the beginning of every voice lessons I ask my students if they have any questions or had any problems during the week. A majority of students say no and miss out on the massive opportunity to learn how to troubleshoot their own problems.

Do not be afraid to ask questions. The more knowledge you have, the better singer you will become.

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22 . 11 . 2011
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Readiness in Relationships – Reality, Reaction and Reasonableness for Robust Relationships

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One of the most important things folks must realize in relationships is that relationships must run their own course, naturally and cannot be pushed, well, you can push them forward, but you are guaranteed not to like the results, say many relationship counselors. Teens most often talk about readiness in relationships, especially teenage girls whose boyfriends are eager to get them in the sack, the advice most often given to these girls is to wait, try abstinence and do not let the boys push you into anything you are not ready for; great advice.

Likewise in adult relationships all too often a blind date, chance meeting or an online dating hookup leads to additional follow-up dates where one side of the relationship is ready for a commitment and the other was intending to just have fun and enjoy some companionship. This of course, is where it gets tricky, much like in the teenager’s challenge. One should not commit until they are ready or allow their feelings to be manipulated into forging a relationship that is not ready or worse, is simply not meant to be.

There is no easy way to find the inflection point where a relationship gets serious or where commitment becomes do or die, but it there is an ultimatum put forth by one party to the other, that commitment is mandatory, it is generally time to take a breather for a while. Why? Well, because that is not keeping in the spirit of a true two-way relationship. So, readiness in relationships must be thought out, not merely reactionary, they must be reasonable, if they are to last. This is how long-term robust relationships are formed, if not, they are doomed from the start.

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